The Ultimate Guide to Finding Happiness (Hint: It’s Not What You Think!)

Discover the secret to finding lasting happiness with our ultimate guide. We reveal the source of joy and it’s not what you think. Learn how to change your mindset and adapt your life to change your experience.

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How to be happy. Where to find happiness.

Are you tired of feeling down and depressed? Does finding happiness feel like a distant dream? Do you find yourself constantly searching for ways to make you happy but coming up empty-handed? Well, my friend, you’re not alone. In fact, according to a recent study, 45% of people globally have not felt true happiness for more than two years.

But fear not, I’m here to share with you the ultimate guide to finding happiness. And spoiler alert: it’s not where you think!

Here’s The One Place Where You Can Find Happiness:

First things first, let’s debunk a common myth. Happiness is not found in external circumstances. Sure, a new car, nice clothes, an exotic holiday, or a promotion at work may give you a temporary high, but it won’t sustain true happiness in the long run. So, where should you be looking instead?

Within yourself.

Yes that’s right. You cannot rely on anyone else or anything else. You have to create it yourself, find it within you. And the first step towards it is changing your perspective on how you experience things.

The Mindset That Will Help you Find Happiness

The key to unlocking happiness is your mindset. When you make a decision to upgrade it, make it more positive, your entire experience of life will change. This doesn’t mean you have to be rainbows and sunshine 24/7 – that’s just not realistic. But it does mean shifting your focus from negative thoughts to positive ones. Start by practicing gratitude.

If you don’t believe me, there is a lot of science to back this up. Research shows that practicing gratitude lowers stress levels and increases feelings of happiness and well-being. According to a study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies, people who wrote letters of gratitude to someone once a week for three weeks experienced greater levels of happiness and less depression than those who didn’t. It doesn’t have to be a letter, either. Just taking a couple of minutes each day to reflect on what you’re thankful for can do wonders for your mood.

Take notice of all the good things you come across, the kind people you meet, the beautiful things you see, the warm feelings you experience. It can be a sip of sweet coffee (or bitter strong, whatever rocks your boat), feeling the sun on your face, a stranger smiling at you on the street, a hug from your kid. This simple practice can do wonders for your outlook on life.

Reprogramme Your Mind For Happiness

As well as focusing on gratitude, control the narrative in your mind. Basically, what you tell yourself. This is a huge topic all by itself, I know. But you can start by practising positive affirmations. You can get some inspiration here with 17 morning affirmations to kickstart your day positively.

The Environment for Finding Happiness

According to a study published in BioScience, people who live in urban neighbourhoods with more birds, shrubs, and trees have lower rates of depression, anxiety, and stress. Apparently, a bird song can help regulate our emotions and cognitive function. So, if you’re feeling down in the dumps, perhaps it’s time to put up a little bird feeder in your backyard.

The People Who Help Regulate Your Happiness

Another way to develop a positive mindset is to surround yourself with positivity. Spend time with people who lift you up and make you feel good about yourself. Cut ties with those who bring you down or fuel negativity. Remember, you are the company you keep.

If you are not sure, notice how energised or de-energised you feel after spending time with someone.

How You Can Work on Finding Happiness

In addition to focusing on your mindset, it’s important to take care of your physical health. Exercise releases endorphins, which are the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Make it a priority to move your body each day, even if it’s just a quick walk around the block. And don’t forget to nourish your body with healthy, whole foods. Your mood will thank you.

And … The Best Kept Secret to Find Happiness

Finally, one of the most underrated ways to find happiness is through giving back. Helping others not only feels good but can also give you a sense of purpose. Volunteer at a local shelter, donate to a charity you’re passionate about, or simply make the time to be there for a friend, a neighbour, someone who might need some support. And don’t underestimate the power of a simple act of kindness – holding the door open for someone or buying a stranger’s coffee can have a ripple effect of positivity. And I promise you, this energy will reflect back to you.

So, there you have it – the ultimate guide to finding happiness. It’s not found in external circumstances but rather within yourself. Cultivate a positive mindset, surround yourself with people who energise you, take care of your physical health, and give back. Remember, happiness is a journey, not a destination. And there is no pressure to do it all, you have to find what works best for you.

If you need a little support taking those steps, I know exactly how to help you. Reach out and have a chat here, I would love to hear from you!

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